15
Aug

What people are saying about Beyond The Schoolyard

“A very interesting read. As a victim of school yard bullying I know exactly how that can effect your everyday adult life, as well as how you parent your children.

It’s important for people to try different ways to let go of all the pain from the past. This book is a great way to introduce yourself with many new and interesting ways you can get to know yourself so you can move forward. Highly recommend all parents to read this book. Very enjoyable and eye opening”.

Sacha Kaluri

Youth motivational speaker and Director of the Australian Teenage Expo

15
Aug

Beyond The Schoolyard

A lot of people ask me why did you write a book? Why did you write about bullying? Is it something you have always wanted to do? Well here is an excerpt from the Introduction of my book Beyond The Schoolyard….

My name is Debbie Rossi, the author of Beyond the School Yard. I’m going to share with you a little of my personal journey and the heartache that led me to write this book, and what it means to me.

I was bullied throughout my high school years and as a result had low self-value and little self-esteem. The feelings of not being good enough infiltrated every area of my life and affected all my rela­tionships with my parents, my husband, my friends and eventually, my children. I always felt I wasn’t good enough. Not a good wife, not a good daughter, not a good mother.

I struggled with this while trying to be the best person I could be, I knew that these feelings were holding me back. I wanted to be the very best mother I could, and worried that I would project my feelings of low self-esteem onto my children.

I wanted my children to love themselves, be happy and accept who they were in any situation and in every area of their lives. How could I teach them this if I didn’t know how to love myself and didn’t feel these things inside myself?

When I discovered Kinesiology and the benefits it brought to me and my children, I knew it was the answer for me. I pursued Kine­siology personally and professionally and through this practice have been able to help not only myself and my family, but many other clients in my private practice. I will be sharing some of their stories in this book.

There are a couple of reasons why I wrote this book. One reason is to be able to help others the way I was helped. Women, men, even children who are experiencing some of the same feelings can be helped by the insights in this book.

I especially hope that mothers can be helped through reading Beyond the School Yard. Then they can be better mothers to their own children and have them live happily, valuing themselves and their place in the world.

My mission and my passion are to have healthy, happy children both inside and out. If I can make this happen for my four gorgeous children and expand the reach of this love to more children in the world, my wish would be fulfilled and my job here accomplished.

Another reason I wrote this book was to overcome the fear of doing it. If I was going to ‘walk the talk’, I needed to overcome the feel­ings of ‘I can’t’ and the fear surrounding the task and just do it. So I did! It’s been hard and fearful but exciting all at the same time. Even though it was terrifying and overwhelming, it’s been one of the best things I’ve done in my life (next to marrying my husband and becoming a mum to my four children).

By using this book as a guide, you will be able to break through all those limiting self-beliefs that hold you back in fear, anxiety, worry, stress and anger. There are tools here to help you on a daily basis to slowly change your way of living for a happier, healthier outlook and life. So that you can go Beyond the School Yard.

You are not alone. There are many people out there who are also experi­encing the same problems and issues that you are. We all have our inner demons, and we all deal with them in different ways. Many people are stuck in the trauma of past experiences, but there is a way out!

What is outlined in this book is the way that I dealt with my prob­lems – and quite successfully too. I hope that by sharing these skills, you will find success in all the areas of life that you are struggling with. Good luck! Enjoy the journey, as you are about to find a better way to see your past and live in the now, with gratitude and joy!

I am excited for the opportunity to work with Bully Zero Austra­lia Foundation. I came across this not-for-profit organisation and I am proud to be working with them to raise awareness of bullying with a no-tolerance culture in Australia! With every book I sell, a percentage will go directly back to this foundation and help them to continue with the amazing work they do in schools and workplaces. For further information on Bully Zero Australia Foundation, check out their website www.bzaf.org.au.

Enjoy this process and step into the new you! Remember:

‘Take the first step in faith. You don’t have to see the whole staircase, just take the first step.’ – Martin Luther King, Jr.

To order your copy today, please click here.

Until my next blog, enjoy your children.

Debbie xx

23
May

Yoga Therapy for Teenagers

I attended a Yoga Therapy for Kids workshop last weekend and I learnt not only all the benefits of Yoga but also how you can use Yoga to help children (and adults) with conditions like…
Anxiety
Depression
Weight issues
Bed wetting
Asthma
Diabetes
Stress
Healthy digestion
Healthy backs.
I will be incorporating these exercises into my meditation classes for teenagers.

As described in my Zenergy Kids Teacher Training Course Manual… “Yoga correctives are a series of therapeutic exercises that work with the body to bring it back into balance. The aim of corrective exercises is to bring the energy flow back into the meridians and to assist the body in its natural healing process. They correct the functioning of organs, the body systems and correct structural imbalances”.

For example to have a healthy digestive system we need to look at how the Large Intestine functions.

On a metaphysical level our Large Intestine is all about letting go and feeling worthy. You can work with this by understanding that our thoughts do not define who we are, unless we give a thought some energy (more thought) a thought will simply pass through our minds. To help with this you can do simple breathing exercises to help release any unwanted thoughts by closing your eyes, taking in a deep breathe and on your out breathe imagine blowing out that negative thought, out into the universe and away from your mind.

On a physical level our Large Intestine is all about our healthy bacteria levels in our digestive system and also the releasing of waste material. A great way to help with this is to decrease sugars in your diet and increase natural fibres in your diet. To help with the function of the muscles around the large Intestine you can lie on your back with your legs above you and cycle your legs around (forwards and backwards) and to each side – continue this for a few minutes.

Give these tips a go today or you can do them with your children if they are suffering from either the physical or metaphysical side effects of a sluggish Large Intestine.

If you or your child would like more information about my classes, please email me at [email protected] For a limited time I am also offering a free trial session to both my adult and teenage classes.

To your happiness always,

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11
May

Beyond The Schoolyard, End the bullying forever

I love receiving notes from people who have read my book, Beyond The Schoolyard. Here are just some of them:

“I finished your book last night and just wanted to let you know that I thought it was great. It’s interesting to hear the thoughts of someone going through bullying and I could relate to a lot of it even though I wasn’t bullied like you were. My issues were more from low self confidence, but there were similarities in the feelings. It has some great tips in there and is a must read for any adult that has gone through what you have gone through.” – Carolyn, Berwick.

“I read your book a few weeks ago and really loved it. I had it for a while but I read it just at the right time that I needed it. It really helped reconnect me to my inner resources and I felt it was the perfect blend of inspiration, wisdom and practical steps. It was an amazing first book and I look forward to many more. Also just wanted to say thank you for being a beacon of light to creating a bully free world. My energy and support is 100% behind you and I know your work will make a huge difference.” – Nicole, Warrandyte.

“Debbie captures the essence of the glass half full approach to life. She helps people focus on their strengths and not their weaknesses. When a person is bullied they carry the experience as a burden even when the situation has been dealt with. Debbie offers victims help to remove this burden so they can move on with their life with a increased empathy for others.” – Heather Hawkins, Campus Principal Essendon Keilor College Niddrie Campus.

Get your copy today by clicking here.

 

book-picThis powerful, inspiring book teaches you to deal with and let go of the effects of childhood bullying.

The step-by-step process outlined in Beyond the Schoolyard allows you to deal with the pain and anguish of childhood; identify how it affects your adult life, and learn to let go of and move past the pain into a healthier and happier adulthood.

This training will also equip and empower parents to deal with schoolyard bullying scenarios involving their own children.

 

 

To your happiness,

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3
May

Live Mindfully

Mindfulness has become a buzz word in recent times, yet I have found that not many people know what it is or how to incorporate mindfulness into their ‘busy’ lives. In the Dictionary mindfulness is described as… a technique in which one focuses one’s full attention only on the present, experiencing thoughts, feelings, and sensations but not judging them:
The practice of mindfulness can reduce stress and physical pain.

For me, I explain mindfulness to my clients as – focusing on the present moment without judgement or anxiety about what is or what should be or what needs to be. It is simply focusing on the now within your body and experiencing peace and ease within that moment.

‘When we are mindful, deeply in touch with the present moment, our understanding of what is going on deepens, and we begin to be filled with acceptance, joy, peace and love’ – Thich Nhat Hanh

Here 12 simple ways that you can bring mindfulness into your everyday life…

1. Take a walk.
Spend some time standing still and concentrating on your breathe. Walk at a relaxed, fairly slow pace. Focus on the body movements you are making with each leg, each arm and body. Inhale as you lift your foot, exhale as you place it down. Repeat.
2. Eat something.
Rather than shovelling in your food, take time to taste it, smell it, enjoy it, feel the temperature of your food and feel the texture. This is a much healthier option to eating.
3. Drink something hot.
Close your eyes and feel the warm liquid in your mouth and subsequently as it travels down your throat into your stomach.
4. Listen to music.
Listen to all the different sounds and instruments in the music. If there are lyrics separate the lyrics from the melody. Tap to the music. Hum or sing along. Where in your body you can feel the sound?
5. Do Yoga, Tai Chi, Qigong or other similar moving meditation exercise.
A combination of stretching, breathing and movement.
6. Driving.
Turn off the radio, tone down your anxiety about getting somewhere on time and enjoy the quiet time to yourself.
7. Make art.
Painting, drawing, sewing, crafts, or anything creative is incredibly meditative. Put on some quiet music as well, light a candle and enjoy creating.
8. Journal.
Each day write in your gratitude journal. Notice the pressure of the pen on the paper. The sound of the tip scraping along the page. The way the ink bleeds. How the pen feels in your hand. Now, take a deep breath, and allow mindfulness to flow, going deeper. You will then start to write with complete presence, using your intuition and inner wisdom.
9. Wash your hands.
Feel the water flow over your hands, feel the temperature. Smell the soap. Dry your hands on a towel and feel the towel against your skin.
10. Give a massage.
Touch is a powerful thing. Give yourself or give someone else a massage. Receive a massage. Feel the pressure, oil and warmth of your skin and the other person’s skin.
11. Breathe.
The easiest of all! Yet something we often forget about. How you breathe can determine how anxious or relaxed you are feeling. Slow down your breathe and breath into your belly. Watching your belly rise and fall with each breathe.
12. Gazing.
Staring at a candle flame or something similar, allowing yourself to become immersed in the object as you quieten the mind.

It really is this simple to become more mindful in your life, to allow that peace, acceptance, joy and love in.

Give one of them a go right now! And commit to doing one (or more) each and everyday.

I run regular weekly meditation sessions, to help you to become more mindful. Please email me on [email protected] to claim your free trial meditation session.

To your happiness always,
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2
May

Victimhood vs Personal Power

Often we get caught in a ‘victim’ mentality with people and situations round us. We feel like we have no control over what is going on externally. I am sure that you have been in this situation and I know I certainly have many times.

When we allow ourselves to fall into the ‘victim’ mode, we fall deep into the emotion of the situation, with many examples and reasons why it is not fair and the poor me mentality comes to full light. Hence we lose our personal power.

Yet if we realise that this ‘victim’ mode is just a pattern of behaviour that we live our life in, then we can move away from ‘victimhood’ into a more logical space and regain our personal power within the situation. It is here in the logical space that we can see what the facts of the situation are, allowing a whole new perspective to come into our light and understanding.

Unfortunately (as I am well aware) this victim mode is something that we automatically go into and it is an easy space to be in as we can blame others around us. Yet to make the change away from ‘victim’ mode it does take a choice and change of behaviour to do this, which only requires practice.

Yes it does only take YOU to make a change in YOUR life.

Victimhood

This all sounds great, but how do I practically start to become this empowered person who is no longer a victim of their circumstance? Here are a few steps to help start making this change…..

  1. Accept that people around you are not going to think or act the way you do. We are all different, so celebrate who you are and your personal values.
  2. Check in with yourself to see how you are behaving and what you are contributing to these circumstances, if you can stand in the light and be true to who you are in kindness, love and compassion then you need to remain in that space and not allow others around you to change who you are (in other words don’t react with bad behaviour because someone else is acting badly).
  3. Be thankful that this situation / person in your life, as they are here to teach you something about yourself and empower you to be strong within yourself.

For me, these simple steps can make a huge difference, as they give you a structure to work with and move you away from that irrational and emotional space that ‘victimhood’ surely brings.

Good luck with it and remember to be kind to yourself as you begin to make the changes within to ultimately make the changes on your outside life.

To your happiness always,
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11
Apr

Teenage Meditation Classes

Over the school holidays I was fortunate to co-run a Teenage Healthy Mind, Healthy Body Class. This is an area that I am very passionate about, especially because I have two teenage children at home (with two more to come!).

From my own experience with my teenagers, helping them to be happy and calm individuals can be an ever changing (and often challenging) task. I believe one of the best things I can do for my children is to be present with them, to help guide and nurture them along the way, yet I cannot do this if I myself am feeling anxious or stressed out. I need to help myself in order to help them. I know this to be true everyday of our lives, when I am feeling better I am able to be the mother they need me to be at any given time (or mood!).

I have found, one of the best things to help all of us, is meditation and giving them a calmer and more centred base to start from, as when their base is calmer then the highs and lows of life won’t be so high or low, causing even greater unnecessary distress.

Here are a couple of pictures of my two gorgeous teenagers doing their Vision Board, as part of the Healthy Mind, Healthy Body Class…

Sofia

 

Alivia

Meditation for children these days is easily accessible with a variety of different aps, which children can use on a daily basis, whether it be before study, before bed or even to start off their day. Meditation does not need to take a long time or be hard, it is something you can practice together in a quiet room with a candle lit.

If you would prefer a more formal meditation setting then please email ([email protected]) me to come along to your free trial of my weekly teenage (and adult) meditation classes I run.

To your happiness always,

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22
Mar

Beginners Meditation Free Trial

Meditation is a tool that I use everyday in my busy life. It helps to centre me and ground me into a space that I can enjoy the busyness of my life. The more you perform meditation, the easier it becomes and the more you can then integrate it into your life when you first feel stressed or anxious.

Meditation brings you into the NOW, where we can listen to what is happening around us right now, as the past is not happening (again) and the future is not here (yet). In the NOW we can only have influence over what is happening right NOW. By changing your thoughts in the NOW, it will change you perception of the past and alter your anxieties of the future. It is a very powerful and important space to be in. Which is one of the reasons why I love meditation so much.

To do start practicing this in your life today, throughout your day remember to focus on your breathe. Breath in for 3 deep breathes, feeling the breathe as it fills your lungs and stomach with air and then on the release feeing the breathe leave your stomach and lungs. Once you have done this once you can then start to step it up a notch by incorporating a colour into the breathe, with each in breathe imagine you are breathing in a white healing light, filling your body with the white light. Then the next step on from this is to incorporate an emotion / feeling into your breathe. I breathe in peace and love and breathe out resistance and anger (these emotions will vary depending on the your day – so feel free to add any emotion here, just always remember to breathe in the positive emotion and breathe out the negative emotion).

I am now running regular meditation classes on a Tuesday at 12pm, this is a beginners class and almost full (as I like to limit these classes to small numbers to allow for a more intimate setting). Today I would like to offer you a free trial of this class to help you enjoy and live the benefits of meditation in your daily life. If you are interested, please email me at [email protected] or call me on 0422 011 180 to discuss further.

Remember guys “The soul always knows what to do heal itself. The challenge is to silence the mind to listen”.

To your happiness always,

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14
Mar

Kinesiology Awareness Week

Kinesiology has changed my life in so many ways. When I began my journey with Kinesiology 9 years ago I did not even know what it was or even how to pronounce it! How things have changed in the past years as I now use Kinesiology every day in my own life and also to help my children in their lives.

Kinesiology is an effective tool in assessing and understanding the body, mind and spirit. Through using muscle testing (non-invasive) you are able to determine what is ‘stressing’ out the whole body (body, mind and spirit). Kinesiology works from a nutritional level to an emotional issue to an environmental cause or even a spiritual angle. All can be determined and changed through the simple art of muscle testing.

I believe that our bodies have been designed and function to heal themselves yet with so many outside influences and distractions it upsets that fine balance of equilibrium within our bodies. When this balance changes to out-of-balance our bodies can no longer function or even heal themselves as effectively as it has been designed to do. Hence this is where Kinesiology comes in to look at the whole person to re-align the whole person into a balanced state, to ultimately allow for equilibrium within and in all areas of one’s life.

Kinesiology works a lot with emotional triggers as generally most dis-ease begins with emotional dis-ease. By addressing dis-ease on all levels allows ease in healing and life. Kinesiology also works on a physical level to release stresses within the body. It is through this connection of all areas of one’s life that true and lasting equilibrium can occur.

Kinesiology changes for me (to name a few) have ranged from me finally dealing with bullying issues I endured through my high school years, subtle changes to my diet like reducing sugar intake, physical releases of stresses by using trigger points and meridian lines on my body. These changes and many more relieve my body from unnecessary stress in order for me to for me to enjoy and participate fully in my busy life as a business owner and mother to 4 busy children. And because of this I am eternally thankful for Kinesiology in my life.

Written by Debbie Rossi from www.debbierossi.com.au. Debbie is a Kinesiologist, presenter, author of Beyond the Schoolyard (End the bullying forever) and busy mother to 4 children. Debbie is passionate about enabling others to create happy, healthy, confident and successful lives.

11
May

The quieter you become the more you can hear

In our busy lives rushing between all the ‘jobs’ we need to get done every day, we get caught up in needing to be somewhere or do something and forget to actually live our lives!

For me, this is something I struggle with each and every day as I am a woman of many hats – I am a mother to four active children, I am a Kinesiologist, I am a wife and (just recently) I am the Tuckshop Lady at my children’s school. Which means that my life is a busy one with lots going on.

This makes it very easy for me to get stuck into the never ending cycle of what needs to be done and in constant thought about the next job to do! And for a long time I would be this person, struggling everyday to get everything done and feeling absolutely exhausted at the end of each day. Unfortunately my children and husband would often bare the brunt of my tiredness and frustrations.

I decided that I did not want to be that mother and wife who is cranky with no time to connect with her children.

I have found the one thing that has made a huge difference for me is meditation and mindfulness of the present moment. It is through this awareness of what is going on and allowing myself time out to re-focus on what is important which has enabled me to be calmer and ‘in the moment’ with my family.

My one most important tip to you today is to take some time out today (it only needs to be a few minutes) to breathe and just allow yourself to sit in the moment. Focus on your breathe and allow your mind to quieten down. Do this a few times each day. I will do this while I am waiting for my kids to come out of school, before I get out of bed in the morning, whilst I am eating my lunch, short breaks at the computer and most importantly before I go to sleep at night. Give it a try in your life today, it is something so simple which can have a profound effect on your day and mood.

I am very passionate about this as I know (through my own experience) that you can also get control of your busy life through using the same techniques I use daily. Hence I have created a workshop called ‘Meditation Made Easy’. Please click here for more information.

Until my next blog, enjoy your children.

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Beyond the School Yard

Meditation Made Easy!
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