Beyond The Schoolyard

15
Aug

What people are saying about Beyond The Schoolyard

“A very interesting read. As a victim of school yard bullying I know exactly how that can effect your everyday adult life, as well as how you parent your children.

It’s important for people to try different ways to let go of all the pain from the past. This book is a great way to introduce yourself with many new and interesting ways you can get to know yourself so you can move forward. Highly recommend all parents to read this book. Very enjoyable and eye opening”.

Sacha Kaluri

Youth motivational speaker and Director of the Australian Teenage Expo

15
Aug

Beyond The Schoolyard

A lot of people ask me why did you write a book? Why did you write about bullying? Is it something you have always wanted to do? Well here is an excerpt from the Introduction of my book Beyond The Schoolyard….

My name is Debbie Rossi, the author of Beyond the School Yard. I’m going to share with you a little of my personal journey and the heartache that led me to write this book, and what it means to me.

I was bullied throughout my high school years and as a result had low self-value and little self-esteem. The feelings of not being good enough infiltrated every area of my life and affected all my rela­tionships with my parents, my husband, my friends and eventually, my children. I always felt I wasn’t good enough. Not a good wife, not a good daughter, not a good mother.

I struggled with this while trying to be the best person I could be, I knew that these feelings were holding me back. I wanted to be the very best mother I could, and worried that I would project my feelings of low self-esteem onto my children.

I wanted my children to love themselves, be happy and accept who they were in any situation and in every area of their lives. How could I teach them this if I didn’t know how to love myself and didn’t feel these things inside myself?

When I discovered Kinesiology and the benefits it brought to me and my children, I knew it was the answer for me. I pursued Kine­siology personally and professionally and through this practice have been able to help not only myself and my family, but many other clients in my private practice. I will be sharing some of their stories in this book.

There are a couple of reasons why I wrote this book. One reason is to be able to help others the way I was helped. Women, men, even children who are experiencing some of the same feelings can be helped by the insights in this book.

I especially hope that mothers can be helped through reading Beyond the School Yard. Then they can be better mothers to their own children and have them live happily, valuing themselves and their place in the world.

My mission and my passion are to have healthy, happy children both inside and out. If I can make this happen for my four gorgeous children and expand the reach of this love to more children in the world, my wish would be fulfilled and my job here accomplished.

Another reason I wrote this book was to overcome the fear of doing it. If I was going to ‘walk the talk’, I needed to overcome the feel­ings of ‘I can’t’ and the fear surrounding the task and just do it. So I did! It’s been hard and fearful but exciting all at the same time. Even though it was terrifying and overwhelming, it’s been one of the best things I’ve done in my life (next to marrying my husband and becoming a mum to my four children).

By using this book as a guide, you will be able to break through all those limiting self-beliefs that hold you back in fear, anxiety, worry, stress and anger. There are tools here to help you on a daily basis to slowly change your way of living for a happier, healthier outlook and life. So that you can go Beyond the School Yard.

You are not alone. There are many people out there who are also experi­encing the same problems and issues that you are. We all have our inner demons, and we all deal with them in different ways. Many people are stuck in the trauma of past experiences, but there is a way out!

What is outlined in this book is the way that I dealt with my prob­lems – and quite successfully too. I hope that by sharing these skills, you will find success in all the areas of life that you are struggling with. Good luck! Enjoy the journey, as you are about to find a better way to see your past and live in the now, with gratitude and joy!

I am excited for the opportunity to work with Bully Zero Austra­lia Foundation. I came across this not-for-profit organisation and I am proud to be working with them to raise awareness of bullying with a no-tolerance culture in Australia! With every book I sell, a percentage will go directly back to this foundation and help them to continue with the amazing work they do in schools and workplaces. For further information on Bully Zero Australia Foundation, check out their website www.bzaf.org.au.

Enjoy this process and step into the new you! Remember:

‘Take the first step in faith. You don’t have to see the whole staircase, just take the first step.’ – Martin Luther King, Jr.

To order your copy today, please click here.

Until my next blog, enjoy your children.

Debbie xx

11
May

Beyond The Schoolyard, End the bullying forever

I love receiving notes from people who have read my book, Beyond The Schoolyard. Here are just some of them:

“I finished your book last night and just wanted to let you know that I thought it was great. It’s interesting to hear the thoughts of someone going through bullying and I could relate to a lot of it even though I wasn’t bullied like you were. My issues were more from low self confidence, but there were similarities in the feelings. It has some great tips in there and is a must read for any adult that has gone through what you have gone through.” – Carolyn, Berwick.

“I read your book a few weeks ago and really loved it. I had it for a while but I read it just at the right time that I needed it. It really helped reconnect me to my inner resources and I felt it was the perfect blend of inspiration, wisdom and practical steps. It was an amazing first book and I look forward to many more. Also just wanted to say thank you for being a beacon of light to creating a bully free world. My energy and support is 100% behind you and I know your work will make a huge difference.” – Nicole, Warrandyte.

“Debbie captures the essence of the glass half full approach to life. She helps people focus on their strengths and not their weaknesses. When a person is bullied they carry the experience as a burden even when the situation has been dealt with. Debbie offers victims help to remove this burden so they can move on with their life with a increased empathy for others.” – Heather Hawkins, Campus Principal Essendon Keilor College Niddrie Campus.

Get your copy today by clicking here.

 

book-picThis powerful, inspiring book teaches you to deal with and let go of the effects of childhood bullying.

The step-by-step process outlined in Beyond the Schoolyard allows you to deal with the pain and anguish of childhood; identify how it affects your adult life, and learn to let go of and move past the pain into a healthier and happier adulthood.

This training will also equip and empower parents to deal with schoolyard bullying scenarios involving their own children.

 

 

To your happiness,

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22
Mar

10 Steps to Prevent Bullying for Your Child

Bullying occurs all around us; as a child in the schoolyard, as a teenager in the Cyberworld and even as an adult in the workplace! As a society we need to raise awareness around bullying, as the effects on both the victim and bully can last a lifetime.

I am passionate about helping other families to feel empowered over bullying. I experienced bullying in my school years and for many years after the bullying occurred I suffered from feelings of low self-worth and feelings of not being good enough.

I believe that no child or adult should experience bullying or live from the long-term effects of bullying like I did.

These 10 simple steps will help you to take your power back and prevent bullying in your child (as either a bully or victim of bullying):

  1. Deal with your personal issues: it is important to get Mum feeling confident and in control of her life first, which will then flow down to her children. The more we can look within and work on our own stuff the less we will feel the need to put others down to make ourselves feel better.
  2. Create empathy: model and teach your children to be empathetic and how to recognize emotions that are being experienced by those around them. Be understanding and empathetic towards your children for what they are going through.
  3. Communication: keep the lines of communication open with your children, so they are comfortable with talking to you about what is really going on at school and on social media.
  4. Resilience: encourage resilience in your children, modelling and talking them through how they can ‘bounce back’ from difficult times, setbacks, and other significant challenges.
  5. Attention: give your child quality one on one attention. This is important to help your child feel valued and worthy or your time and love. By helping your child to feel valued in the home environment will reduce the chances of them going outside the home environment for validation.
  6. Accept your child for who they are: love and accept your child as they are right now. If we can accept our children and show this to them though love and feeling proud of them.
  7. Do not label your children: do not give your children labels, like shy, rude, naughty or terrible. This will on reinforce the behavior that you are trying to avoid. If you call someone a name long enough, then that is what they will believe within themselves.
  8. Discipline your child with love: discipline your child from a place of love, not form a place of anger and frustration. It is important to teach children how to deal with their own anger through modelling appropriate anger management within ourselves.
  9. Teach your children how to be social: model and teach your children to be social through your own social relationships. Children learn through our example and need to know how to treat people socially.
  10. Encourage your children to be independent: by encouraging your children to be independent, we are putting our trust in them and saying that we think they are responsible enough and mature enough to cope with a given task.

The most important thing for children who are either experiencing bullying or who are bullying is to look within and underneath to see what is happening for them inside emotionally. When we are able to address these internal fears, anxieties or sadness then their external behaviours will start to match their internal feelings. When you only deal with the external bullying it has a short-term effect, to make the changes long lasting we need to deal with the internal emotions that are causing the bullying.

Start today to implement these steps into your life. Remembering to talk and acknowledge what is going on with your child and see it through their eyes.

Order your copy of my book, Beyond The Schoolyard by clicking here.

To your happiness,

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22
Mar

National Day of Action Against Bullying and Violence

Friday 20th of March was the fifth annual National Day of Action Against Bullying and Violence. As part of this day I was honoured to be asked to attend the Bully Zero Foundation Australia launch of their anti-bullying booklet called ‘A Safer Nation for Every Generation’!

This booklet is the first in Australia, which includes a lot of valuable information for our children about how to create a safer nation and stamp out bullying. The booklet is put together using pictures children have drawn and lots in practical information for both children, parents, educators and society as a whole.

I feel very honoured and blessed to where my work takes me and to be a part of such an important cause.

Launch photo 1 This photo is of Ali Halkic, board member and founder of Bully Zero. The foundation was set up in honour of his son Allem Halkic took his own life after been cyber bullied in 2012.

 

Launch photo 2

This photo is of Oscar Yildiz, CEO of Bully Zero. He is the man behind everything that happens at Bully Zero.

 

Launch photo 3

 

This photo is of me with Ali holding the booklet, ‘A Safer Nation for Every Generation’.

To your happiness,

1
Mar

And the February winner is….

Each month I give-away a signed copy of my book Beyond The Schoolyard.

The winner for February is Therese. CONGRATULATIONS Therese, I trust you will enjoy and get lots of value out of reading my book.

To enter my March Beyond The Schoolyard draw, please click here.

To your happiness,

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1
Mar

Action, action and more ACTION…

At my ‘Align with your 2015 Dreams’ workshop on the weekend, I was asked “How do I overcome these negative thoughts that keep popping up in my mind, I know what they are yet they continue to keep on coming?”

Action, action and more ACTION was my answer.

Action is what will stop that thought in its track and more you away from it into a more positive place!

For me, this is something that I used to struggle with, because yes I knew why and what my negative thoughts were about, yet they continued on. So now whenever I feel that niggling self-doubt pop up, I take action in my life. It almost feels like I am proving that the self-doubt is a thing of the past and I am moving onto a more empowering future through the action!

This also keeps me away from that ‘poor me’ phase, which I would easily slip into once those negative thoughts arrived and I would relive different examples in my life where I felt like I was not good enough! The emotion would rise within me and I would begin to feel stuck in this phase again…

It is through the action of either a task in my business, putting myself out there in a social situation or simply just getting off the couch!

How can you take ACTION today to move away from your negative thoughts and into an empowered tomorrow?

To your happiness,

Signature -Debbie

11
Jan

Number 1 Tip to Overcome Your Down

We all have our ups and downs within our day-to-day lives. When we focus on the downs it will often make them seem like we are unable to overcome these downs. By focusing on the down, we bring in emotion and often past examples to re-enforce the down. So we end up not only experiencing the current down but also the many past examples of a similar down.

When we step away from the emotion (and the past) and look at the bigger picture which the situation is bringing it will enable us to see that there is light at the end of the down, we can re-align ourselves with the possibility of overcoming it and into the solution rather than the problem!

I know it is often hard to see a solution to the problem when we are stuck in the emotion of it, so to help I always distance myself from the situation and calm myself by taking deep breaths. Often this is enough to see beyond that moment and into the possibilities of improving the situation!

Give it a try today!

I talk a lot about changing your thoughts in the first chapter of my book, Beyond The Schoolyard. You can download my first chapter by clicking here.

To your happiness,

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11
Jan

And the December winner is….

Each month I give-away a signed copy of my book Beyond The Schoolyard.

The winner for December is Genna Winter. CONGRATULATIONS Genna, I trust you will enjoy and get lots of value out of reading my book.

To enter my January Beyond The Schoolyard draw, please click here.

To your happiness,

Signature -Debbie

 

14
Dec

And the November winner is….

Each month I give-away a signed copy of my book Beyond The Schoolyard.

The November winner is Karen Lee Clowes. CONGRATULATIONS Karen, I trust you will enjoy my book!

To enter my December Beyond The Schoolyard draw, please click here.

To your happiness,

Signature -Debbie

 

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