Beyond The Schoolyard

14
Dec

Bully Zero Australia Foundation

This week I achieved an ongoing personal goal of mine! To be able to directly contribute to the cause against bullying.

With each sale of my book, Beyond The Schoolyard 20% of the proceeds is donated directly to Bully Zero Australia Foundation.  I love where my life has taken me and allowed me to be apart of such an important and personal cause. To help people overcome their own bullying pasts and to heal from present day bullying!

To order your copy or for more information on my book please click here.

To your happiness,

Signature -Debbie

 

 

14
Nov

St Michaels Health and Well-being Expo

Last week I was privileged to present Happy Mums = Happy Kids at St Michaels Health and Wellbeing Expo.
I receive a lot of positive feedback from the presentation and I wanted to share some of it with you, my wider audience.
Here are my 7 most crucial tips to becoming a Happy Mum:
Time freedom – the biggest complaint we as mothers make is that we don’t have enough time, time to look after ourselves, get things done around the house, prepare nutritious meals, spend quality time with our children or partners etc. etc. We need to first look at what we actually do with our time first in order to evaluate how we can utilise our time better.
The past is the past – often we let the past determine and influence our present and future happiness. We need to accept, understand, forgive and let go of the past. learnt he lessons from your past to move into the present moment.
Look within – often we let our external world determine our internal happiness, which is never a long lasting happiness. We need to focus on things within us to feel empowered in our own happiness and life.
It is what it is – letting go of the struggle to be the ‘perfect’ mother. Accept yourself, your children and the situation for all that you are, just as you are.
Set the tone – children learn 80% of their behaviours, actions and reactions through role modelling. Become the person you want your children to be!
Don’t be so hard on yourself – don’t compare your inner world with someone else’s outside world. Start to treat yourself with compassion and kindness, just like you would a best friend.
An attitude for gratitude – be grateful for all that life is and has to offer you, the good and the bad.
Over the next few weeks I will delve deeper into each of these tips, so please stay tuned!
Here is a picture of me at the presentation, it was great to have so many like minded Mums in the room sharing their experiences and helping one another!
Talk photo 1

Here is some feedback I received…
“Good insights for mums. Refresh simple things that we often forget”.
“Really good and informative. A reality check, understanding everyone goes through the same emotions”.
“Practical straight forward advice that is easy to apply”.
Thank you everyone who attended.

Until my next blog guys, enjoy your children.

Signature -Debbie

3
Nov

3AW Radio Interview

 

After appearing in the Herald Sun on Saturday, 3AW called me to do an on-air interview this week.

It was very exciting to be able to reach a wider audience and to be able to touch many more mothers out there to help them understand that they are not alone!

To your happiness

Signature -Debbie

31
Oct

Herald Sun Article – Bullying at the Gate

By Susie O’Brien

VICTORIAN mums are receiving counselling to help them cope with bullying, intimidation and even threats of violence from other mothers at their kids’ schools.

Schools have turned to counsellors and psychologists to help ease the tensions among mothers in the schoolyard.

Oscar Yildiz, CEO of Bully Zero Australia Foundation, said his organization was receiving calls from mums being bullied by other mothers.

“I had one mother ring me and tell me she wanted to ‘punch the daylights out’ of another mother,” he said.

“It’s hard when they are trying to resolve bullying issues between their children and frustrations can boil over,” Mr Yildiz said.

Debbie Rossi, author of the new book Beyond the Schoolyard: End the Bullying Forever, has given talks about surviving in the schoolyard to mothers in Greensborough, Glen Waverley, Frankston, Doncaster and Berwick.

“Some of the mums tell me they avoid getting out of the car because they don’t want to see other mums,” she said.

“Others spend a lot of time getting ready for school drop off and pickup to pass the test at the school gate.

“They feel judged by what they wear and what car they drive, and how their children behave,” Ms Rossi said.

Ms Rossi, a mother of four school-aged children, said mothers who were bullied at school themselves often felt more vulnerable.

“Some mums can sometimes feel like they are the ones starting a new school, and they worry that they won’t fit in and their kids will suffer,” Ms Rossi said.

Gabrielle Leigh, President of the Victorian Principal’s Association, welcomed counseling for mothers to help them cope with other mothers. “It can get emotional at times,” she said.

The Department of Education has released a “Statement of Values for Safer Schools” encouraging parents to “treat other members of the school community with respect”.

To your happiness

Signature -Debbie

20
Oct

Beyond The Schoolyard Book Launch

Here are a few photos from my book launch on Friday night (I have also included my speech I made)…

Combined book luanch photoCombined book luanch photo 1Combined book luanch photo 2

 

Don’t forget, you can order your copy of Beyond The Schoolyard at www.beyondtheschoolyard.com.au.

Enjoy guys.

Signature -Debbie

28
Sep

My No.1 Tip To Motherhood

 ‘There is no one perfect way to be a good mother … Each mother has different challenges, different skills and abilities, and certainly different children … What matters is that a mother loves her children deeply …’ – M. Russell Ballard

When we become mums, if we are not emotionally okay within ourselves then that is projected onto our children, which can be everything from exciting and exhilarating to overwhelming and scary. In my experience, when I became a mother, all of my emotions that I had been trying to hide from – although not very successfully – came flooding to the surface. I had created these gorgeous innocent children who would look at me with adoration and unconditional love. I wanted more than anything to teach my children all that life has to offer them and be there for them in a way that only a mother can.

Becoming a mum can be one of the most exhilarating and scariest things in your life. Like me, you remember the moment you became a mum when your home pregnancy test came back positive with those two little lines! It was exciting, yet so scary. It was taking a leap into the next stage and you had no idea what was going to happen but it was so exciting because you were bringing a new little person into the world.

Yet how could I do all that if inside myself I did not believe or feel that I was good enough and capable enough to step up to the challenge! This is why when we become a mum our feelings are exaggerated. Tie this to the overwhelming desire to be The Best Mum Ever and you are heading towards a meltdown.

We all strive to be the best mum and to do the very best things for our children. Unfortunately, if we are not in the right head-space and if we are not in a happy place within us then we will put our own issues onto our children.

My mothering-guilt appeared as an outward expression of the fear that I was not a good enough mother. This fear appeared in the form of doubts about my ability, second- guessing my decisions, fearing that I wasn’t spending enough time with them, guilt over leaving them in day care, or that I was somehow neglecting them if they happened to get hurt. Does this sound familiar?

During this chapter I give tips and strategies that I use everyday on my children.

My number one tip I think is the most important and valuable is to “Trust in what you are doing”. Is your baby happy and are you happy? Let go of this image of the perfect baby that sleeps all night, eats everything, and does not cry. Let me tell you, there is no such thing as a perfect child. Your child is perfect as your child. Your child is the perfect child for you.

Finally I want to remind us all is to enjoy your children, they do grow up so quickly and before you know it they are becoming adults themselves. It is these early years of formation that will make a difference for the rest of their lives.

To order your copy of my book called Beyond The Schoolyard, please click here.

Until my next blog, enjoy your children.

Signature -Debbie

21
Sep

Why Beyond The Schoolyard?

A lot of people ask me why did you write a book? Why did you write about bullying? Is it something you have always wanted to do? Well here is an excerpt from the Introduction of my book Beyond The Schoolyard….

My name is Debbie Rossi, the author of Beyond the School Yard. I’m going to share with you a little of my personal journey and the heartache that led me to write this book, and what it means to me.

I was bullied throughout my high school years and as a result had low self-value and little self-esteem. The feelings of not being good enough infiltrated every area of my life and affected all my rela­tionships with my parents, my husband, my friends and eventually, my children. I always felt I wasn’t good enough. Not a good wife, not a good daughter, not a good mother.

I struggled with this while trying to be the best person I could be, I knew that these feelings were holding me back. I wanted to be the very best mother I could, and worried that I would project my feelings of low self-esteem onto my children.

I wanted my children to love themselves, be happy and accept who they were in any situation and in every area of their lives. How could I teach them this if I didn’t know how to love myself and didn’t feel these things inside myself?

When I discovered Kinesiology and the benefits it brought to me and my children, I knew it was the answer for me. I pursued Kine­siology personally and professionally and through this practice have been able to help not only myself and my family, but many other clients in my private practice. I will be sharing some of their stories in this book.

There are a couple of reasons why I wrote this book. One reason is to be able to help others the way I was helped. Women, men, even children who are experiencing some of the same feelings can be helped by the insights in this book.

I especially hope that mothers can be helped through reading Beyond the School Yard. Then they can be better mothers to their own children and have them live happily, valuing themselves and their place in the world.

My mission and my passion are to have healthy, happy children both inside and out. If I can make this happen for my four gorgeous children and expand the reach of this love to more children in the world, my wish would be fulfilled and my job here accomplished.

Another reason I wrote this book was to overcome the fear of doing it. If I was going to ‘walk the talk’, I needed to overcome the feel­ings of ‘I can’t’ and the fear surrounding the task and just do it. So I did! It’s been hard and fearful but exciting all at the same time. Even though it was terrifying and overwhelming, it’s been one of the best things I’ve done in my life (next to marrying my husband and becoming a mum to my four children).

By using this book as a guide, you will be able to break through all those limiting self-beliefs that hold you back in fear, anxiety, worry, stress and anger. There are tools here to help you on a daily basis to slowly change your way of living for a happier, healthier outlook and life. So that you can go Beyond the School Yard.

You are not alone. There are many people out there who are also experi­encing the same problems and issues that you are. We all have our inner demons, and we all deal with them in different ways. Many people are stuck in the trauma of past experiences, but there is a way out!

What is outlined in this book is the way that I dealt with my prob­lems – and quite successfully too. I hope that by sharing these skills, you will find success in all the areas of life that you are struggling with. Good luck! Enjoy the journey, as you are about to find a better way to see your past and live in the now, with gratitude and joy!

I am excited for the opportunity to work with Bully Zero Austra­lia Foundation. I came across this not-for-profit organisation and I am proud to be working with them to raise awareness of bullying with a no-tolerance culture in Australia! With every book I sell, a percentage will go directly back to this foundation and help them to continue with the amazing work they do in schools and workplaces. For further information on Bully Zero Australia Foundation, check out their website www.bzaf.org.au.

Enjoy this process and step into the new you! Remember:

‘Take the first step in faith. You don’t have to see the whole staircase, just take the first step.’ – Martin Luther King, Jr.

To order your copy today, please click here.

Until my next blog, enjoy your children.

Signature -Debbie

14
Sep

Reverse Focus

‘How would your life be different if … you stopped allowing other people to dilute or poison your day with their words or opinions? Let today be the day … you stand strong in the truth of your beauty and journey through your day without attachment to the validation of others.’ – Steve Maraboli

Reverse focus is a very powerful part of the process to help you feel more confident, happy and live the life you want to live. It is looking at yourself and having yourself as the main focus.

The most important thing is you and how you are feeling about something and what is going on with you. When we focus on the outside world, which we cannot control, we lose focus on what we can control – the inside world. It is so important to be focused on the inside and what those internal emotions are and not focused on what is going on externally.

If you are putting a Band-Aid on the outside of a problem, you are not really addressing the inside emotional need that is not being met. We need to keep out of other people’s stuff. Other people have their own lives to lead, their own crosses to bear, their own celebra­tions to be had. It is not your life, it is their life and we cannot judge or assume to know what is going on with others because we have not walked in their shoes.

Keep the focus off others and direct it back to yourself. Don’t confuse your issues by delving into other peoples. You have to focus and understand your own problems in order to deal with or sort them out.

Be in the here and now. We need to keep ourselves in the present moment of what is actually going on and not lose our focus and go back to past events or think about future events. What is important is the right here and now, because our present perception can define and change what happened in the past and shape what happens in the future. Let go of whatever no longer serves you. Sometimes in our past, we set up emotional belief patterns that served us and kept us safe at the time. These patterns are no longer valid in our life as we grow and develop as a person. Make the choice to let them go. Be mindful of what is going on now, become aware of the now and don’t try to change it. Let go of the need to try to change what is going on now. Become more accepting as you acknowledge the moment.

This is an excerpt from my book called Beyond The Schoolyard, Reverse Focus chapter. For more information on how you can order your own copy of this book, please click here.

Until my next blog, enjoy your children.

Signature -Debbie

2
Sep

Beyond The Schoolyard Book Review

I was very excited to receive this book review in the Australian Kinesiology Association Magazine called Intouch.

It was reviewed by Michael Wild, who owns a Kinesiology book store in Ormond.

Check it out guys.

Intouch Magazine Book Review

21
Aug

Tip 2 – Creating empathy

A major issue we as parents face in today’s technological age is that it’s so easy for our children to become addicted to Computers, iPads, iPods, Xboxes, Playstations, TV, Social Media etc etc.

In this technological world, we forget “real” humans are on the other end of comments, messages, and postings. Unfortunately it is this lack of connection that becomes a breeding ground for a lack of empathy resulting in bullying and general insensitivity.

As mothers we need to seek opportunities to model empathy towards our children. It is easy to get caught up in the nagging, disciplining cycle of raising our children. When speaking with our children first think about what types of challenges they might currently be experiencing and approach them with compassion and understanding.

Remembering, that things may not seem like a big deal to us are actually major issues for our children, ( think back when you were a kid and put yourself in their shoes).

When our children are on the receiving end of understanding and compassion, they can better understand how it feels and have an authentic sense of why and how they can pass that good feeling on to others.

For more information, register for my webinar called 10 Ways to Prevent Bullying For Your Child on Monday 25th August. http://www.debbierossi.com.au/events/10-ways-to-prevent-bullying-for-your-child/.

How can you model empathy to your children today?

Until my next blog, enjoy your children.

Signature -Debbie

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