Bullying

15
Aug

What people are saying about Beyond The Schoolyard

“A very interesting read. As a victim of school yard bullying I know exactly how that can effect your everyday adult life, as well as how you parent your children.

It’s important for people to try different ways to let go of all the pain from the past. This book is a great way to introduce yourself with many new and interesting ways you can get to know yourself so you can move forward. Highly recommend all parents to read this book. Very enjoyable and eye opening”.

Sacha Kaluri

Youth motivational speaker and Director of the Australian Teenage Expo

15
Aug

Beyond The Schoolyard

A lot of people ask me why did you write a book? Why did you write about bullying? Is it something you have always wanted to do? Well here is an excerpt from the Introduction of my book Beyond The Schoolyard….

My name is Debbie Rossi, the author of Beyond the School Yard. I’m going to share with you a little of my personal journey and the heartache that led me to write this book, and what it means to me.

I was bullied throughout my high school years and as a result had low self-value and little self-esteem. The feelings of not being good enough infiltrated every area of my life and affected all my rela­tionships with my parents, my husband, my friends and eventually, my children. I always felt I wasn’t good enough. Not a good wife, not a good daughter, not a good mother.

I struggled with this while trying to be the best person I could be, I knew that these feelings were holding me back. I wanted to be the very best mother I could, and worried that I would project my feelings of low self-esteem onto my children.

I wanted my children to love themselves, be happy and accept who they were in any situation and in every area of their lives. How could I teach them this if I didn’t know how to love myself and didn’t feel these things inside myself?

When I discovered Kinesiology and the benefits it brought to me and my children, I knew it was the answer for me. I pursued Kine­siology personally and professionally and through this practice have been able to help not only myself and my family, but many other clients in my private practice. I will be sharing some of their stories in this book.

There are a couple of reasons why I wrote this book. One reason is to be able to help others the way I was helped. Women, men, even children who are experiencing some of the same feelings can be helped by the insights in this book.

I especially hope that mothers can be helped through reading Beyond the School Yard. Then they can be better mothers to their own children and have them live happily, valuing themselves and their place in the world.

My mission and my passion are to have healthy, happy children both inside and out. If I can make this happen for my four gorgeous children and expand the reach of this love to more children in the world, my wish would be fulfilled and my job here accomplished.

Another reason I wrote this book was to overcome the fear of doing it. If I was going to ‘walk the talk’, I needed to overcome the feel­ings of ‘I can’t’ and the fear surrounding the task and just do it. So I did! It’s been hard and fearful but exciting all at the same time. Even though it was terrifying and overwhelming, it’s been one of the best things I’ve done in my life (next to marrying my husband and becoming a mum to my four children).

By using this book as a guide, you will be able to break through all those limiting self-beliefs that hold you back in fear, anxiety, worry, stress and anger. There are tools here to help you on a daily basis to slowly change your way of living for a happier, healthier outlook and life. So that you can go Beyond the School Yard.

You are not alone. There are many people out there who are also experi­encing the same problems and issues that you are. We all have our inner demons, and we all deal with them in different ways. Many people are stuck in the trauma of past experiences, but there is a way out!

What is outlined in this book is the way that I dealt with my prob­lems – and quite successfully too. I hope that by sharing these skills, you will find success in all the areas of life that you are struggling with. Good luck! Enjoy the journey, as you are about to find a better way to see your past and live in the now, with gratitude and joy!

I am excited for the opportunity to work with Bully Zero Austra­lia Foundation. I came across this not-for-profit organisation and I am proud to be working with them to raise awareness of bullying with a no-tolerance culture in Australia! With every book I sell, a percentage will go directly back to this foundation and help them to continue with the amazing work they do in schools and workplaces. For further information on Bully Zero Australia Foundation, check out their website www.bzaf.org.au.

Enjoy this process and step into the new you! Remember:

‘Take the first step in faith. You don’t have to see the whole staircase, just take the first step.’ – Martin Luther King, Jr.

To order your copy today, please click here.

Until my next blog, enjoy your children.

Debbie xx

23
May

Yoga Therapy for Teenagers

I attended a Yoga Therapy for Kids workshop last weekend and I learnt not only all the benefits of Yoga but also how you can use Yoga to help children (and adults) with conditions like…
Anxiety
Depression
Weight issues
Bed wetting
Asthma
Diabetes
Stress
Healthy digestion
Healthy backs.
I will be incorporating these exercises into my meditation classes for teenagers.

As described in my Zenergy Kids Teacher Training Course Manual… “Yoga correctives are a series of therapeutic exercises that work with the body to bring it back into balance. The aim of corrective exercises is to bring the energy flow back into the meridians and to assist the body in its natural healing process. They correct the functioning of organs, the body systems and correct structural imbalances”.

For example to have a healthy digestive system we need to look at how the Large Intestine functions.

On a metaphysical level our Large Intestine is all about letting go and feeling worthy. You can work with this by understanding that our thoughts do not define who we are, unless we give a thought some energy (more thought) a thought will simply pass through our minds. To help with this you can do simple breathing exercises to help release any unwanted thoughts by closing your eyes, taking in a deep breathe and on your out breathe imagine blowing out that negative thought, out into the universe and away from your mind.

On a physical level our Large Intestine is all about our healthy bacteria levels in our digestive system and also the releasing of waste material. A great way to help with this is to decrease sugars in your diet and increase natural fibres in your diet. To help with the function of the muscles around the large Intestine you can lie on your back with your legs above you and cycle your legs around (forwards and backwards) and to each side – continue this for a few minutes.

Give these tips a go today or you can do them with your children if they are suffering from either the physical or metaphysical side effects of a sluggish Large Intestine.

If you or your child would like more information about my classes, please email me at [email protected] For a limited time I am also offering a free trial session to both my adult and teenage classes.

To your happiness always,

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22
Mar

10 Steps to Prevent Bullying for Your Child

Bullying occurs all around us; as a child in the schoolyard, as a teenager in the Cyberworld and even as an adult in the workplace! As a society we need to raise awareness around bullying, as the effects on both the victim and bully can last a lifetime.

I am passionate about helping other families to feel empowered over bullying. I experienced bullying in my school years and for many years after the bullying occurred I suffered from feelings of low self-worth and feelings of not being good enough.

I believe that no child or adult should experience bullying or live from the long-term effects of bullying like I did.

These 10 simple steps will help you to take your power back and prevent bullying in your child (as either a bully or victim of bullying):

  1. Deal with your personal issues: it is important to get Mum feeling confident and in control of her life first, which will then flow down to her children. The more we can look within and work on our own stuff the less we will feel the need to put others down to make ourselves feel better.
  2. Create empathy: model and teach your children to be empathetic and how to recognize emotions that are being experienced by those around them. Be understanding and empathetic towards your children for what they are going through.
  3. Communication: keep the lines of communication open with your children, so they are comfortable with talking to you about what is really going on at school and on social media.
  4. Resilience: encourage resilience in your children, modelling and talking them through how they can ‘bounce back’ from difficult times, setbacks, and other significant challenges.
  5. Attention: give your child quality one on one attention. This is important to help your child feel valued and worthy or your time and love. By helping your child to feel valued in the home environment will reduce the chances of them going outside the home environment for validation.
  6. Accept your child for who they are: love and accept your child as they are right now. If we can accept our children and show this to them though love and feeling proud of them.
  7. Do not label your children: do not give your children labels, like shy, rude, naughty or terrible. This will on reinforce the behavior that you are trying to avoid. If you call someone a name long enough, then that is what they will believe within themselves.
  8. Discipline your child with love: discipline your child from a place of love, not form a place of anger and frustration. It is important to teach children how to deal with their own anger through modelling appropriate anger management within ourselves.
  9. Teach your children how to be social: model and teach your children to be social through your own social relationships. Children learn through our example and need to know how to treat people socially.
  10. Encourage your children to be independent: by encouraging your children to be independent, we are putting our trust in them and saying that we think they are responsible enough and mature enough to cope with a given task.

The most important thing for children who are either experiencing bullying or who are bullying is to look within and underneath to see what is happening for them inside emotionally. When we are able to address these internal fears, anxieties or sadness then their external behaviours will start to match their internal feelings. When you only deal with the external bullying it has a short-term effect, to make the changes long lasting we need to deal with the internal emotions that are causing the bullying.

Start today to implement these steps into your life. Remembering to talk and acknowledge what is going on with your child and see it through their eyes.

Order your copy of my book, Beyond The Schoolyard by clicking here.

To your happiness,

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22
Mar

National Day of Action Against Bullying and Violence

Friday 20th of March was the fifth annual National Day of Action Against Bullying and Violence. As part of this day I was honoured to be asked to attend the Bully Zero Foundation Australia launch of their anti-bullying booklet called ‘A Safer Nation for Every Generation’!

This booklet is the first in Australia, which includes a lot of valuable information for our children about how to create a safer nation and stamp out bullying. The booklet is put together using pictures children have drawn and lots in practical information for both children, parents, educators and society as a whole.

I feel very honoured and blessed to where my work takes me and to be a part of such an important cause.

Launch photo 1 This photo is of Ali Halkic, board member and founder of Bully Zero. The foundation was set up in honour of his son Allem Halkic took his own life after been cyber bullied in 2012.

 

Launch photo 2

This photo is of Oscar Yildiz, CEO of Bully Zero. He is the man behind everything that happens at Bully Zero.

 

Launch photo 3

 

This photo is of me with Ali holding the booklet, ‘A Safer Nation for Every Generation’.

To your happiness,

1
Mar

And the February winner is….

Each month I give-away a signed copy of my book Beyond The Schoolyard.

The winner for February is Therese. CONGRATULATIONS Therese, I trust you will enjoy and get lots of value out of reading my book.

To enter my March Beyond The Schoolyard draw, please click here.

To your happiness,

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1
Feb

January Beyond The Schoolyard Monthly Winner….

Each month I give-away a signed copy of my book Beyond The Schoolyard.

The winner for January is Narelle Penton. CONGRATULATIONS Narelle, I trust you will enjoy and get lots of value out of reading my book.

To enter my February Beyond The Schoolyard draw, please click here.

To your happiness,

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8
Dec

The power in the now…..

At my weekly meditation class last week we talked a lot about being in the present moment. This is something that seems to keep on coming up for me lately.

This moment now is what keeps the past alive and what allows the past to continue to infiltrate into our lives.

This moment now is where we feel anxious or worry about the future.

When we look at the present moment with peace and acceptance, then the past will not dictate our present and the future will work itself out.

To quote my meditation teacher..

“Like attracts like, so when we are at peace in the present moment we will attract peace for all future moments”.

How true! We can change the future just by changing our present thoughts – it is very empowering when we think of it in this manner.

My biggest task this week has been to slow down, focus on the present moment and understand why something from the past or future is affecting me right now (when it is not even happening in the present moment). I had a perfect example of this over the weekend. I began to feel overwhelmed and anxious over something that was out of my control (and specifically someone). I needed to take a step away from the emotion that I was feeling and see why it was affecting me right now. I AM NOT GOOD ENOUGH was the current reason why it was affecting me! Which was really simple to see once I was able to step in the present moment and see logically what was happening. So instead of reliving the past and worrying about what was going to happen in the future because of this event, I told myself that I was GOOD ENOUGH and I am perfect just as I am in this moment. This is where I put my focus, not on the external event that was causing me angst.

How can you apply this to your life? And where do you allow the past to infiltrate into your present thoughts, actions and reactions.Slow down today and focus on the now. Be present in the now, not in what could of been or what should be.

To your happiness,

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17
Nov

The power of a smile!

I went to an interesting seminar recently called ‘Promoting Positive Behaviour in Children’. The presenter Dr Tim Moore talk about the power of the smile….

When children (and adults) look at us they consciously and unconsciously interpret our body language, facial expression, eye contact, tone of voice, gestures, posture, timing and intensity of our responses. Before we even speak, our body signals have said more than our words ever will, which teach others (including our children) around us how to react or behave!

This is something I have known for many years and talk a lot about when helping fellow Mums get control of their lives. As a mother we have the power to set the emotional tone of our household, and it is through our conscious and unconscious actions that gives us this power.

I know when I am feeling stressed and anxious, my children will respond to me in the same way as my conscious and unconscious behaviours will show this to my children and they will begin to mirror my emotional state back to me. I know this then only adds to pressures and often a meltdown will result!

To understand this concept we also need to know how to address what is going on within us, so we can mirror to our children how we want them to behave, with respect, calmness, compassion and love. Unfortunately we cannot fake our unconscious actions as often these are done without us even knowing we are doing them.

This is why it is so important that we look to see what we are feeling on the inside and address these issues rather than any superficial reasons on the outside. Once we are able to address our internal issues, we can then start to make the changes on the inside to reflect on the outside.

My question to you today is what are your body signals saying??

This is something I am very passionate about and I have taken many Mums through my ‘Ignite Your Possibilities’ course, which empowers Mums to understand this concept and start to make the long lasting changes within to live a life full with happiness and peace on the inside and outside. Please click here for more information on my course.

Until my next blog, enjoy your children.
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14
Sep

Reverse Focus

‘How would your life be different if … you stopped allowing other people to dilute or poison your day with their words or opinions? Let today be the day … you stand strong in the truth of your beauty and journey through your day without attachment to the validation of others.’ – Steve Maraboli

Reverse focus is a very powerful part of the process to help you feel more confident, happy and live the life you want to live. It is looking at yourself and having yourself as the main focus.

The most important thing is you and how you are feeling about something and what is going on with you. When we focus on the outside world, which we cannot control, we lose focus on what we can control – the inside world. It is so important to be focused on the inside and what those internal emotions are and not focused on what is going on externally.

If you are putting a Band-Aid on the outside of a problem, you are not really addressing the inside emotional need that is not being met. We need to keep out of other people’s stuff. Other people have their own lives to lead, their own crosses to bear, their own celebra­tions to be had. It is not your life, it is their life and we cannot judge or assume to know what is going on with others because we have not walked in their shoes.

Keep the focus off others and direct it back to yourself. Don’t confuse your issues by delving into other peoples. You have to focus and understand your own problems in order to deal with or sort them out.

Be in the here and now. We need to keep ourselves in the present moment of what is actually going on and not lose our focus and go back to past events or think about future events. What is important is the right here and now, because our present perception can define and change what happened in the past and shape what happens in the future. Let go of whatever no longer serves you. Sometimes in our past, we set up emotional belief patterns that served us and kept us safe at the time. These patterns are no longer valid in our life as we grow and develop as a person. Make the choice to let them go. Be mindful of what is going on now, become aware of the now and don’t try to change it. Let go of the need to try to change what is going on now. Become more accepting as you acknowledge the moment.

This is an excerpt from my book called Beyond The Schoolyard, Reverse Focus chapter. For more information on how you can order your own copy of this book, please click here.

Until my next blog, enjoy your children.

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