No more comparing!

Today I want to talk about how important it is to NOT compare ourselves to others.

Often we get caught up in wishing our life was different or like someone elses, whether it be a relationship, piece of clothing or handbag. We become caught up in the “if onlys”, if only I was like that person, if only I had a relationship like they have, if only I was thinner like that person and the list goes on and on.

When we focus on what other people have and who other people are, we lose sight of what we have in our lives and what we stand. This is because we put all of our focus on the “If only’s” rather than what is right now!

In actual fact, it does not make a difference if all your “If only’s” were fulfilled! You will still be the same person with the same thoughts and feelings, you may think it will make all the difference, but trust me once you get that “if only” filled you will quickly find another “if only” to focus on.

This is because we need to deal with our internal feelings that are causing us to feel the need to want something other than what we have right now. By fulfilling ourselves from the inside, we will be able to let go of the need to have “if only’s” in our lives!

Let go of your need / desire / want to be like someone else. Focus on what you have and be grateful for everything and everyone in your life.

To help with this I encourage you to write in a gratitude diary every night. I write four things that I am grateful for in that day. I focus on everything about me, the good and the not so good bits!

There is even gratitude to be had from a not so good situation in our life, as you have the opportunity to learn and develop as a person.

Start to focus on yourself, always focusing on your internal emotions and thoughts, rather than looking on the outside wishing for something that may or may not be possible.

Be grateful and enjoy your life with what you have and everyone in your life.

Until my next blog, enjoy your children.

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