Reverse Focus

‘How would your life be different if … you stopped allowing other people to dilute or poison your day with their words or opinions? Let today be the day … you stand strong in the truth of your beauty and journey through your day without attachment to the validation of others.’ – Steve Maraboli

Reverse focus is a very powerful part of the process to help you feel more confident, happy and live the life you want to live. It is looking at yourself and having yourself as the main focus.

The most important thing is you and how you are feeling about something and what is going on with you. When we focus on the outside world, which we cannot control, we lose focus on what we can control – the inside world. It is so important to be focused on the inside and what those internal emotions are and not focused on what is going on externally.

If you are putting a Band-Aid on the outside of a problem, you are not really addressing the inside emotional need that is not being met. We need to keep out of other people’s stuff. Other people have their own lives to lead, their own crosses to bear, their own celebra­tions to be had. It is not your life, it is their life and we cannot judge or assume to know what is going on with others because we have not walked in their shoes.

Keep the focus off others and direct it back to yourself. Don’t confuse your issues by delving into other peoples. You have to focus and understand your own problems in order to deal with or sort them out.

Be in the here and now. We need to keep ourselves in the present moment of what is actually going on and not lose our focus and go back to past events or think about future events. What is important is the right here and now, because our present perception can define and change what happened in the past and shape what happens in the future. Let go of whatever no longer serves you. Sometimes in our past, we set up emotional belief patterns that served us and kept us safe at the time. These patterns are no longer valid in our life as we grow and develop as a person. Make the choice to let them go. Be mindful of what is going on now, become aware of the now and don’t try to change it. Let go of the need to try to change what is going on now. Become more accepting as you acknowledge the moment.

This is an excerpt from my book called Beyond The Schoolyard, Reverse Focus chapter. For more information on how you can order your own copy of this book, please click here.

Until my next blog, enjoy your children.

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