Beyond The Schoolyard

11
May

Beyond The Schoolyard, End the bullying forever

I love receiving notes from people who have read my book, Beyond The Schoolyard. Here are just some of them:

“I finished your book last night and just wanted to let you know that I thought it was great. It’s interesting to hear the thoughts of someone going through bullying and I could relate to a lot of it even though I wasn’t bullied like you were. My issues were more from low self confidence, but there were similarities in the feelings. It has some great tips in there and is a must read for any adult that has gone through what you have gone through.” – Carolyn, Berwick.

“I read your book a few weeks ago and really loved it. I had it for a while but I read it just at the right time that I needed it. It really helped reconnect me to my inner resources and I felt it was the perfect blend of inspiration, wisdom and practical steps. It was an amazing first book and I look forward to many more. Also just wanted to say thank you for being a beacon of light to creating a bully free world. My energy and support is 100% behind you and I know your work will make a huge difference.” – Nicole, Warrandyte.

“Debbie captures the essence of the glass half full approach to life. She helps people focus on their strengths and not their weaknesses. When a person is bullied they carry the experience as a burden even when the situation has been dealt with. Debbie offers victims help to remove this burden so they can move on with their life with a increased empathy for others.” – Heather Hawkins, Campus Principal Essendon Keilor College Niddrie Campus.

Get your copy today by clicking here.

 

book-picThis powerful, inspiring book teaches you to deal with and let go of the effects of childhood bullying.

The step-by-step process outlined in Beyond the Schoolyard allows you to deal with the pain and anguish of childhood; identify how it affects your adult life, and learn to let go of and move past the pain into a healthier and happier adulthood.

This training will also equip and empower parents to deal with schoolyard bullying scenarios involving their own children.

 

 

To your happiness,

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27
Apr

Ups and downs

I am often asked by my clients how to navigate and manage through life’s ups and downs and why do the downs continue to come? It is something that even I still struggle with coping with the downs of life.

My biggest piece of advice is that ups and downs will always be there, they will continue through life as we cannot experience a happy time if we do not experience the sad time. Life is not just filled with the good bits or ‘Photo Album Moments’ which are great moments, yet it is not in these moments that we learn and grow as people. It is in the not so good bits that we develop and help to make us the person that we are today.

For me, to overcome these downs and continue to move toward the light of life, is to take action to move away from the down and into a place of peace. When life is throwing you a curve ball if you are in a place of peace, you will be able to navigate through it easier and more effectively without wallowing in self-pity and becoming the victim. As when self-pity and victim mode takes over it will take you longer to move through the down!

For me, I maintain this place of peace in my life through meditation, seeing the bigger picture of daily downs (and ups) and treating myself (and those around me) with more self-compassion. I am writing about this today as this was me yesterday, as I exploded in anger at my family over something small and feeling like I was been pushed to my limits. Yet rather than seeing that I have failed I look at this moment as a learning curve and a way to show and teach my children that sometimes we do feel angry and it is okay. It is important to express anger (in a productive and controlled way) yet when we allow the emotion to overtake us we cannot control ourselves. As I noticed what was happening I removed myself from the situation to allow myself get back into a place of peace.

This place of peace is the key. To get to this place of peace takes ACTION not wallowing ACTION. My action was to remove myself and re-centre myself to see the bigger picture of what was going on!

What ACTION can you take to navigate through life’s ups and downs?

Until my next blog, enjoy your children.

To your happiness,

Signature -Debbie

22
Mar

10 Steps to Prevent Bullying for Your Child

Bullying occurs all around us; as a child in the schoolyard, as a teenager in the Cyberworld and even as an adult in the workplace! As a society we need to raise awareness around bullying, as the effects on both the victim and bully can last a lifetime.

I am passionate about helping other families to feel empowered over bullying. I experienced bullying in my school years and for many years after the bullying occurred I suffered from feelings of low self-worth and feelings of not being good enough.

I believe that no child or adult should experience bullying or live from the long-term effects of bullying like I did.

These 10 simple steps will help you to take your power back and prevent bullying in your child (as either a bully or victim of bullying):

  1. Deal with your personal issues: it is important to get Mum feeling confident and in control of her life first, which will then flow down to her children. The more we can look within and work on our own stuff the less we will feel the need to put others down to make ourselves feel better.
  2. Create empathy: model and teach your children to be empathetic and how to recognize emotions that are being experienced by those around them. Be understanding and empathetic towards your children for what they are going through.
  3. Communication: keep the lines of communication open with your children, so they are comfortable with talking to you about what is really going on at school and on social media.
  4. Resilience: encourage resilience in your children, modelling and talking them through how they can ‘bounce back’ from difficult times, setbacks, and other significant challenges.
  5. Attention: give your child quality one on one attention. This is important to help your child feel valued and worthy or your time and love. By helping your child to feel valued in the home environment will reduce the chances of them going outside the home environment for validation.
  6. Accept your child for who they are: love and accept your child as they are right now. If we can accept our children and show this to them though love and feeling proud of them.
  7. Do not label your children: do not give your children labels, like shy, rude, naughty or terrible. This will on reinforce the behavior that you are trying to avoid. If you call someone a name long enough, then that is what they will believe within themselves.
  8. Discipline your child with love: discipline your child from a place of love, not form a place of anger and frustration. It is important to teach children how to deal with their own anger through modelling appropriate anger management within ourselves.
  9. Teach your children how to be social: model and teach your children to be social through your own social relationships. Children learn through our example and need to know how to treat people socially.
  10. Encourage your children to be independent: by encouraging your children to be independent, we are putting our trust in them and saying that we think they are responsible enough and mature enough to cope with a given task.

The most important thing for children who are either experiencing bullying or who are bullying is to look within and underneath to see what is happening for them inside emotionally. When we are able to address these internal fears, anxieties or sadness then their external behaviours will start to match their internal feelings. When you only deal with the external bullying it has a short-term effect, to make the changes long lasting we need to deal with the internal emotions that are causing the bullying.

Start today to implement these steps into your life. Remembering to talk and acknowledge what is going on with your child and see it through their eyes.

Order your copy of my book, Beyond The Schoolyard by clicking here.

To your happiness,

Signature -Debbie

 

22
Mar

National Day of Action Against Bullying and Violence

Friday 20th of March was the fifth annual National Day of Action Against Bullying and Violence. As part of this day I was honoured to be asked to attend the Bully Zero Foundation Australia launch of their anti-bullying booklet called ‘A Safer Nation for Every Generation’!

This booklet is the first in Australia, which includes a lot of valuable information for our children about how to create a safer nation and stamp out bullying. The booklet is put together using pictures children have drawn and lots in practical information for both children, parents, educators and society as a whole.

I feel very honoured and blessed to where my work takes me and to be a part of such an important cause.

Launch photo 1 This photo is of Ali Halkic, board member and founder of Bully Zero. The foundation was set up in honour of his son Allem Halkic took his own life after been cyber bullied in 2012.

 

Launch photo 2

This photo is of Oscar Yildiz, CEO of Bully Zero. He is the man behind everything that happens at Bully Zero.

 

Launch photo 3

 

This photo is of me with Ali holding the booklet, ‘A Safer Nation for Every Generation’.

To your happiness,

1
Mar

And the February winner is….

Each month I give-away a signed copy of my book Beyond The Schoolyard.

The winner for February is Therese. CONGRATULATIONS Therese, I trust you will enjoy and get lots of value out of reading my book.

To enter my March Beyond The Schoolyard draw, please click here.

To your happiness,

Signature -Debbie

1
Mar

Action, action and more ACTION…

At my ‘Align with your 2015 Dreams’ workshop on the weekend, I was asked “How do I overcome these negative thoughts that keep popping up in my mind, I know what they are yet they continue to keep on coming?”

Action, action and more ACTION was my answer.

Action is what will stop that thought in its track and more you away from it into a more positive place!

For me, this is something that I used to struggle with, because yes I knew why and what my negative thoughts were about, yet they continued on. So now whenever I feel that niggling self-doubt pop up, I take action in my life. It almost feels like I am proving that the self-doubt is a thing of the past and I am moving onto a more empowering future through the action!

This also keeps me away from that ‘poor me’ phase, which I would easily slip into once those negative thoughts arrived and I would relive different examples in my life where I felt like I was not good enough! The emotion would rise within me and I would begin to feel stuck in this phase again…

It is through the action of either a task in my business, putting myself out there in a social situation or simply just getting off the couch!

How can you take ACTION today to move away from your negative thoughts and into an empowered tomorrow?

To your happiness,

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1
Feb

January Beyond The Schoolyard Monthly Winner….

Each month I give-away a signed copy of my book Beyond The Schoolyard.

The winner for January is Narelle Penton. CONGRATULATIONS Narelle, I trust you will enjoy and get lots of value out of reading my book.

To enter my February Beyond The Schoolyard draw, please click here.

To your happiness,

Signature -Debbie

11
Jan

Number 1 Tip to Overcome Your Down

We all have our ups and downs within our day-to-day lives. When we focus on the downs it will often make them seem like we are unable to overcome these downs. By focusing on the down, we bring in emotion and often past examples to re-enforce the down. So we end up not only experiencing the current down but also the many past examples of a similar down.

When we step away from the emotion (and the past) and look at the bigger picture which the situation is bringing it will enable us to see that there is light at the end of the down, we can re-align ourselves with the possibility of overcoming it and into the solution rather than the problem!

I know it is often hard to see a solution to the problem when we are stuck in the emotion of it, so to help I always distance myself from the situation and calm myself by taking deep breaths. Often this is enough to see beyond that moment and into the possibilities of improving the situation!

Give it a try today!

I talk a lot about changing your thoughts in the first chapter of my book, Beyond The Schoolyard. You can download my first chapter by clicking here.

To your happiness,

Signature -Debbie

 

 

11
Jan

And the December winner is….

Each month I give-away a signed copy of my book Beyond The Schoolyard.

The winner for December is Genna Winter. CONGRATULATIONS Genna, I trust you will enjoy and get lots of value out of reading my book.

To enter my January Beyond The Schoolyard draw, please click here.

To your happiness,

Signature -Debbie

 

14
Dec

And the November winner is….

Each month I give-away a signed copy of my book Beyond The Schoolyard.

The November winner is Karen Lee Clowes. CONGRATULATIONS Karen, I trust you will enjoy my book!

To enter my December Beyond The Schoolyard draw, please click here.

To your happiness,

Signature -Debbie

 

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